An older man and younger woman relationship is not only one of the most common motifs in dating, it’s also one of the most popular.
In fact, it is exactly what make these men so focused in pursuing their significant other that can make them equally as intentional and focused when it comes to planning for and talking about a serious relationship and its future.An older man and younger woman relationship can work wonders for women who are looking for men who will stay present with them, who are calm and stable and who have spent time building their lives independently.I’ll be 42 in a couple of weeks, and in two years of online dating, I’d say about 70% of the people who write to me are fifty and over, often MUCH over.I think the record so far is the 74-year-old who said he could have his daughter pick him up at the nursing home and bring him into the city if I were willing to meet for coffee. Your last line is telling, though, and hints at the broader trend. Unfortunately, it seems that all the men my age only want much younger women, which leaves me with the 20-somethings who think “MILF” is an appropriate subject line and write messages about being “into older women,” and the aforementioned geriatric (or borderline) set. If everyone is looking downstream, age-wise (except the few who have a “kink” for older types), where does that leave those of us who really are looking for a peer? Should I adjust my objectives to what the market has to offer?Of course, there’s something romantic, alluring and even reassuring about dating a man who’s quite a bit older than you.
These men tend to be way more well-established and courteous, they’re chivalrous and you’ll never hear the words, “let’s hang out” ever again.When a younger woman finds the right older man for her, these foundations can make for a soulmate type of love match.Younger women drawn to older men bring a lot of youth, vibrance and vitality to the relationship.You’re done with the bar scene and you’re very much interested in settling down to have a family of your own. Well, if you’re born in 1971, you’re part of Generation X. Your friends are buying their first houses and having their first kids. Maybe he’ll still be vigorous enough to keep up with your active lifestyle. Next, since you can’t convince someone to date an older man, stop trying.And then you, the 36-year-old woman, post your profile, and what happens? It doesn’t stop older men from writing, but at least you don’t have to explain yourself to a man who doesn’t want to hear your perfectly valid explanation. But you must understand that any woman you desire online has choices. She can go out with a cute, successful man who is 35. To find out who IS interested, try Match.com’s Reverse Match.Have you ever heard the saying, “Certain things get better with age”? For younger women, dating a man 10 to 20 years older than her can give her more than simply great experiences or memories.