doesn’t know that: when she meets you, you could be Jack Ryan, Jack Sparrow or Jack the Ripper. Even more terrifying is the fact that, over the course of her life, the biggest threats to her You need to understand how women evaluate your qualities and how they perceive the status, danger, opportunities and threats that you could present.
The better you learn to see these things from women’s points of view, the less unattractive you will be to them and the less confused, resentful and frustrated you will be by how they respond to you.
While I was coaching Michelle through the first four months of their relationship (and intermittently in between), I cautioned her to NOT put any pressure on him about getting married and having kids.
While theoretically, she could be “wasting” her time with him, my advice was to let him fall in love with her.
It will help you to stop acting like a self-sabotaging dick.
And it will also help your relationships with your mom, sisters, daughters, female friends and co-workers.
I was sad for Michelle, but very proud at how she handled herself. Her playfulness, her sexiness, and yes, even her attitude and mood swings.
Despite her high-maintenance tendencies, she became better at understanding Mark’s needs and point of view, and created the healthiest relationship that she’d ever had before. After spending a year and a half together, Mark realized that he couldn’t imagine life without her. And while I give Michelle credit for becoming the woman that no man can ever leave, Michelle actually gives ME credit.
If he did, she would have a lot more leverage when the baby talk came up, as opposed to trying to extract an answer out of him in the early stages of the relationship. Because really, it was no secret that Michelle wanted to be a Mom, and since Mark was a man of integrity, he wanted to do right by his girlfriend.
He agreed, last July, to be the future father of her children. No matter how much he loved Michelle, Mark just couldn’t pull the trigger on a second round of fatherhood, and they tearfully parted ways.
Always good-humored, always confident, always present – and, most importantly, always coachable, Michelle saw instant results in working with me.
She attracted a man who was different than her previous boyfriends – and that’s exactly what she needed.
Every time she wanted to criticize him for how he handled his relationship with his son, or his ex-wife, or his boss, she remembered that men don’t stay with women who treat them as incomplete projects – they bond with women who make them feel good. Here’s a snippet of her note to me: I love Michelle and I love this story.