I made this mistake early on and now understand why a few girls, after several emails, would ask direct questions like “Is there anything else you would like me to answer? There are times where you will feel like you are communicating with a “great catch” only to realize what a mistake that was 60 seconds into the first date.It is important to meet early on so less time is spent talking to the wrong person and more time is spent trying to find the right one. The first date should be planned not long after communication has begun.Actually meeting the person you are talking to is one of the most important steps to online dating.
It is personal preference on how long to wait but there are very few reasons to delay.After all, contacting someone is just a pre-cursor to the first date.Limiting the time of the first date is a safety precaution: if you end up on a nightmare of a date you’ve already established your “out”.If on the other hand the date is going excellent, suggest to your date that you extend it.One common reason to delay a first date is due to an attempt to learn more about the other person. I found the first few minutes of the first date are worth more than dozens of emails.
Another reason to delay would be if the person you are communicating with has expressed extreme reservations about meeting people from the internet.Your date might remind you of your time constraint (“But I thought you needed to be home at 8…”). People who are dating online actively will appreciate your planning for a bad date and like the fact that you are saying to them “this is a good date”.If you would rather not let them in on your planning for the worst-date-scenario, just say that you’d prefer to cancel your previous plans and spend your evening with them.I never went for phone conversations as a stepping stone from internet communication to meeting.I tried phone conversations early on but had a few bad experiences with “excessive calling” and one case where a girl took it as a personal offense every time I had to get off the phone.Either way you approach it, they won’t mind if they are having a good time.